Ever made yourself a promise so strong, you were sure you’d never break it?
I did.
As a young girl, watching my parents’ marriage fall apart, I made a vow to myself: If I ever got married, I’d never get divorced.
That promise became a thread running quietly through my life, shaping my choices and anchoring me to a belief that no matter what, I’d find a way to make it work. Because surely love was enough, right?
But life, as we know, has a way of calling us to grow in ways we never expected.
And there I was – an adult, a wife, and someone who had built her life on the foundation of that childhood vow – facing the very thing I thought I’d never have to: the end of my marriage.
Reaching the point where I knew that staying meant betraying myself was one of the most painful and liberating moments of my life. It felt like letting go of a version of me I’d tried so hard to hold onto. But the truth was, that version no longer fit. She was surviving, not thriving. And my body, my energy, my very spirit was telling me something had to change.
In a recent podcast conversation, I opened up about this chapter of my journey – what it was like to break that deep personal promise, why it felt like failure at the time, and how I eventually came to see it as one of the bravest, most loving choices I could have made.
Because sometimes, honouring ourselves means stepping into the unknown.
It means risking judgement, sitting with grief, and trusting that our body’s wisdom will guide us home.
If you’ve ever felt torn between what you promised and what your soul is now calling for – please know you’re not alone. You haven’t failed. You’re just evolving.
And maybe, just maybe, the most powerful promise we can make…
is to keep listening to what we truly need.